人情牌，用多了，就没有效果了；想改用人月牌嘛，却又是犯法的（贿赂是犯法的）
有相聚，就会有别离。纵然有再多的不舍，别离还是会到来。如果说成熟的人是可以应付这种伤愁的，
那我承认自己是个不成熟的人。
我突发奇想，有多一步可以尝试，可是不知道这可不可以挽留成功，也在琢磨着是该还是不该，
奇迹快出现吧！
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Was affected emotionally last 2 days...
On Wednesday basically i am not productive at all, just under shocking stage for the day after knowing that one of my colleagues is leaving..
He is like one of my left-right hand to-be..
Left-right hand as in he is one of the top performers in the team who doing projects together with us, and he indeed is a very very responsible guy and reliable team member who constantly, faithfully and responsibly follow the instructions given, regardless of his willingness of doing the task..
Why i said left-right hand to-be, because he is now not reporting to me, instead, to another of my counterpart, but he is going to be work under my umbrella after his current project at hands, which i have been anticipating for quite a while...
Unfortunately, resignation letter was typed and submitted, and he is leaving for new job next month before this shifting happen...
Though not professional to be under such state, my emotion is very mixed for the incident, given that his departure is more a result of sets of dissatisfaction besides a career path consideration rather than just the latter factor as major tipping point of such a move... I regretted that, i only feedback to my manager few weeks back for some of his dissatisfaction that i have aware off for quite a while, but never take another step to request to transfer him over under me, which i believe will resolve a few points of his dissatisfactions... I had the thought before, but due to worry being labelled as political, i didn't take this step rigorously... and now is too late, he already made up his mind to leave, without any compromise and is totally closed door...
After this incident, my manager has decided to move another project development team member to report to me directly, rather than previous arrangement of reporting to my counterpart but technically under my guidance... I think this move is triggered by the resignation incident...
It is too late to express appreciation to his previous effort, neither will this late appreciation touch him to ever consider to stay in the company... unless miracle happens...
Seems like my previous major plan which include him will need to be re-strategized... It is really really a very bad thing to lose the left right hand man...
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Tonight, a bit moody, intend to look for Julius for a meet up and chat / movie perhaps, end up also meet up with Gavin and their friend YiXing...
Have been met up with Yixing I think 2 times before, but only tonight got a closer talk and deeper conversation with YiXing.. Though find him being filled by too much "curiousity", but generally still clickable, can talk and interact fine...
People shape up impression on others along the way when interacting with one another, so am I... I am interested and want to understand more on this new friend i know if got chance to meet up again in the future... i think he has not shown the true side of him in front of me, but is normal since we don't know each other well yet, but i have this impression that he has a lot of life stories and has a lot of thoughts that are unique... have been excited to have a new friendship that i think i can explore a bit further...
Realized that, coming to Singapore for 9 years now, how my life has been moved on from 0 friend here in Singapore when i just moved here from Malaysia to now build up quite some friendships.. Though overall numbers are not many here in Singapore, but among them God has blessed me with some good friends, buddies, close friends or whatever it may call, in workplace, in church... whom i can trust, and enjoy the conversations with...
In church
Kel
Jerrick
Gavin (I cannot forget that Gavin is the first whom come forward and make friend with me at the time when i just rejoin the church service after leaving quite a long while, leave behind a very strong impression in my mind, off course is a good one)
Julius (very quiet.. sometimes is like: can you don't be so quiet? so hard to dig the chatty side of him to wake up. But can tell, he is a faithful friend, that's why i always like to ask him if free to meet up some times after work which i need to travel passed the area he stays)
PengHuat
In workplace
KarWei (whom is one of my best buddy now, being a new father soon, so happy for him)
Joo Soon (whom in work, i consider my left-right hand, but is leaving the workplace soon)
James (whom in work, i also consider as my left-right hand last time, but now no longer work under me because my manager has shifted this heavy responsibility away from me and ask me to be focus on project development)
In uni
Jordan (I actually trust Jordan alot not long after knowing him, trust in a way that i never hesitate to share any business ideas i have, never suspect that he will steal it and make it his own)
I realized also it is easy and difficult to be a friend whom I consider my good friend, which i will render my help, support, encouragement and concern beyond what i normally will do... easy because it is not hard to gain my trust, through a few incidents is sufficient for me to treat you as my good friend whom I will believe and commit, but also difficult because there is no hard rule on what from these few incidents to show me...
I think during young time, watched too many sword hero stories already... have now become so emphasizing loyalty of friendships, and i am someone who prefer to spend most of my time build deeper friendships rather than build wider friend network...
On Wednesday basically i am not productive at all, just under shocking stage for the day after knowing that one of my colleagues is leaving..
He is like one of my left-right hand to-be..
Left-right hand as in he is one of the top performers in the team who doing projects together with us, and he indeed is a very very responsible guy and reliable team member who constantly, faithfully and responsibly follow the instructions given, regardless of his willingness of doing the task..
Why i said left-right hand to-be, because he is now not reporting to me, instead, to another of my counterpart, but he is going to be work under my umbrella after his current project at hands, which i have been anticipating for quite a while...
Unfortunately, resignation letter was typed and submitted, and he is leaving for new job next month before this shifting happen...
Though not professional to be under such state, my emotion is very mixed for the incident, given that his departure is more a result of sets of dissatisfaction besides a career path consideration rather than just the latter factor as major tipping point of such a move... I regretted that, i only feedback to my manager few weeks back for some of his dissatisfaction that i have aware off for quite a while, but never take another step to request to transfer him over under me, which i believe will resolve a few points of his dissatisfactions... I had the thought before, but due to worry being labelled as political, i didn't take this step rigorously... and now is too late, he already made up his mind to leave, without any compromise and is totally closed door...
After this incident, my manager has decided to move another project development team member to report to me directly, rather than previous arrangement of reporting to my counterpart but technically under my guidance... I think this move is triggered by the resignation incident...
It is too late to express appreciation to his previous effort, neither will this late appreciation touch him to ever consider to stay in the company... unless miracle happens...
Seems like my previous major plan which include him will need to be re-strategized... It is really really a very bad thing to lose the left right hand man...
--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--==--
Tonight, a bit moody, intend to look for Julius for a meet up and chat / movie perhaps, end up also meet up with Gavin and their friend YiXing...
Have been met up with Yixing I think 2 times before, but only tonight got a closer talk and deeper conversation with YiXing.. Though find him being filled by too much "curiousity", but generally still clickable, can talk and interact fine...
People shape up impression on others along the way when interacting with one another, so am I... I am interested and want to understand more on this new friend i know if got chance to meet up again in the future... i think he has not shown the true side of him in front of me, but is normal since we don't know each other well yet, but i have this impression that he has a lot of life stories and has a lot of thoughts that are unique... have been excited to have a new friendship that i think i can explore a bit further...
Realized that, coming to Singapore for 9 years now, how my life has been moved on from 0 friend here in Singapore when i just moved here from Malaysia to now build up quite some friendships.. Though overall numbers are not many here in Singapore, but among them God has blessed me with some good friends, buddies, close friends or whatever it may call, in workplace, in church... whom i can trust, and enjoy the conversations with...
In church
Kel
Jerrick
Gavin (I cannot forget that Gavin is the first whom come forward and make friend with me at the time when i just rejoin the church service after leaving quite a long while, leave behind a very strong impression in my mind, off course is a good one)
Julius (very quiet.. sometimes is like: can you don't be so quiet? so hard to dig the chatty side of him to wake up. But can tell, he is a faithful friend, that's why i always like to ask him if free to meet up some times after work which i need to travel passed the area he stays)
PengHuat
In workplace
KarWei (whom is one of my best buddy now, being a new father soon, so happy for him)
Joo Soon (whom in work, i consider my left-right hand, but is leaving the workplace soon)
James (whom in work, i also consider as my left-right hand last time, but now no longer work under me because my manager has shifted this heavy responsibility away from me and ask me to be focus on project development)
In uni
Jordan (I actually trust Jordan alot not long after knowing him, trust in a way that i never hesitate to share any business ideas i have, never suspect that he will steal it and make it his own)
I realized also it is easy and difficult to be a friend whom I consider my good friend, which i will render my help, support, encouragement and concern beyond what i normally will do... easy because it is not hard to gain my trust, through a few incidents is sufficient for me to treat you as my good friend whom I will believe and commit, but also difficult because there is no hard rule on what from these few incidents to show me...
I think during young time, watched too many sword hero stories already... have now become so emphasizing loyalty of friendships, and i am someone who prefer to spend most of my time build deeper friendships rather than build wider friend network...
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